For Beginners

What are beginner sex toys?

Beginner toys are the simpler, smaller and more forgiving end of the catalogue: products designed or labelled for a first try. In this collection that means starter butt plug kits, slim anal plugs, entry-level penis pumps, basic strap-on sets, soft handcuffs and bondage starter kits. Most are made from silicone or soft, flexible materials, and many come as sets with graduated sizes so you can build up at your own pace rather than guessing what will feel right.

Types of beginner toys

Starter butt plugs and anal training kits

The largest group here. Slim silicone plugs from Luxe, Booty Call and b-Vibe, often sold as kits in a few sizes, let you start small and move up when you are comfortable. Check that every plug has a flared base, which is essential for any anal toy. See the full range in beginners butt plugs.

Beginner penis pumps

Hand-operated pumps from Pumped and Pump Worx, some with a pressure gauge or gentle vibration, are made for people who have never used a pump before. They sit alongside the wider range of male sex toys.

Starter strap-ons and slim dildos

Harness sets with a slim silicone peg, and small, soft starter dongs from Crystal Jellies and Temptasia, are a gentle way into pegging and penetration. Browse more shapes in dildos.

Soft bondage and sensation starters

Furry or satin handcuffs, light floggers, nipple clamps and bondage kits introduce restraint and sensation without heavy hardware. Compare them with the wider restraints range once you know what you like.

How to choose a beginner toy

Start with what you are curious about, then pick the smallest, simplest version of it. A toy you actually use beats an ambitious one that stays in the drawer.

• Size: choose a slim, tapered shape, or a kit with graduated sizes so you can progress gradually.
• Material: silicone and other smooth, non-porous, body-safe materials are easiest to clean and feel comfortable against skin.
• Simplicity: fewer buttons and settings mean less to learn. Non-vibrating or single-speed toys are a fine first step.
• Comfort features: look for a flared base on plugs, adjustable straps on harnesses, and padded or quick-release cuffs.
• Budget: starter kits tend to be affordable, so you can experiment before investing in a premium toy.

How to use and care for beginner toys

Go slowly, use plenty of lubricant and stop if anything hurts. Water-based lubricant is the safe choice with silicone toys, since silicone lubricant can damage the surface.

• Wash toys before and after each use with warm water and a mild soap or a dedicated toy cleaner.
• Use generous water-based lubricant, especially for anal play, and reapply as needed.
• Follow the instructions supplied with pumps and keep early sessions short.
• With cuffs and restraints, agree a check-in word and make sure they can be released quickly.
• Dry toys fully and store them separately so different materials do not react with each other.

Beginner toys for solo play and couples

Many of these products work equally well alone or together. A small plug or a pump is an easy solo experiment, while a starter strap-on, soft cuffs or a bondage kit give couples a low-pressure way to try something new. Talk about what you both want beforehand, keep the first session short, and think of it as exploration rather than a performance. There is no rush to move up a size or add features; comfort comes first.