Strap-On Dildos

What are strap-on dildos?

A strap-on dildo is a dildo mounted on a harness that sits around the hips or thighs, so the wearer can penetrate a partner with their hands free. The sets in this collection include both pieces. Some harnesses hold an interchangeable dildo in an O-ring; others have the dildo fixed in place. Hollow strap-ons are worn over a penis, strapless designs stay put with a bulb held inside the wearer's vagina, and vibrating versions add a motor for one or both partners. Most dildos here are silicone or a soft blend and range from a modest first size to larger shapes.

Types of strap-on dildos

Harness and dildo kits

The b-Vibe Beginner and Everybody sets, Ouch! harnesses, Dillio suspender harness sets and the Me You Us kit with two dildo sizes are classic adjustable strap harnesses with a silicone dildo, and many let you swap the dildo later.

Hollow strap-ons

Fetish Fantasy Series hollow strap-ons fit over the penis and come in plain, vibrating, rechargeable remote-controlled and even squirting versions, some with balls. They add length and stay firm throughout, and the stretchy or adjustable harness holds them in place.

Vibrating and remote-controlled strap-ons

Lux Fetish vibrating strap-ons and the Fetish Fantasy remote-controlled sets put a motor in the dildo or at its base so the receiver feels vibration and, depending on the design, the wearer does too.

Double and strapless strap-ons

The Stardust and Skinsations Double Dickin designs and the Fetish Fantasy Double Delight have a second shaft that sits inside the wearer. Strapless strap-ons from Fun Factory and Realrock go further and drop the harness altogether, while the Strict double penetration harness carries two dildos for the receiver.

Pegging trainer and plus-size sets

The Lux Fetish Pegging Trainer set, the Fetish Fantasy Plus Size set, the Strap U booty shorts harness and the Secret Kisses set with a blindfold are built around comfort and fit for specific bodies and first-time scenarios.

How to choose a strap-on dildo

Decide who will wear it and who will receive, then match the dildo size and harness style to that pairing.

• Wearer: A hollow strap-on is for someone with a penis; a strap harness or strapless design is for anyone else. Double dildos need a wearer with a vagina.
• Harness fit: Adjustable straps fit the widest range of bodies. Booty shorts and plus-size sets give extra support and coverage.
• Dildo size: For anal receiving start slim; for vaginal receiving a medium realistic shape is a comfortable middle ground.
• Power: Vibrating and remote sets cost more but add sensation for both partners. Plain sets are quieter and simpler to clean.
• Material: Silicone dildos clean easily and last; softer blends feel more lifelike but need more careful care.

How to use and care for strap-on dildos

Put the harness on and adjust it while standing, then fit the dildo and tighten the straps so it does not droop. Use plenty of water-based lubricant on the dildo and the receiver, go slowly, talk about angle and depth, and stop if anything hurts.

• Wash the dildo before and after each use with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner; remove any bullet vibe first.
• Hand wash fabric harnesses and let them air dry; wipe leather or vinyl with a damp cloth.
• Avoid silicone lubricant on silicone dildos, and store dildos so they do not touch other silicone toys.
• Check O-rings and buckles for wear before each session.

Strap-ons for beginners and couples

First-timers do well with an adjustable harness and a slim silicone dildo, and can later browse harness dildos for a second shaft to swap in. Couples who want to skip the straps can look at the strapless strap-on range, and anyone wanting to wear a strap-on over a penis should start with hollow dildos. For more ideas to share, see our picks for couples.